tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post3149403514085121171..comments2023-11-13T00:33:59.939-08:00Comments on Tomato's Vine: Learning From Marriage FailsTomatohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14874825476590035544noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-31812500815949902932015-03-03T20:15:09.991-08:002015-03-03T20:15:09.991-08:00Such a great mindset. I'm there with you on j...Such a great mindset. I'm there with you on just trying to keep it in sight, haha.Tomatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14874825476590035544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-22911001098569550682015-02-23T12:50:43.947-08:002015-02-23T12:50:43.947-08:0050/50 just sounds so good doesn't it? But it n...50/50 just sounds so good doesn't it? But it never works out that way. And even though I know it won't happen, I, too, catch myself wanting it to. As you pointed out, strengths and weaknesses are different, so one thing he might be good at, I'm not, and vice versa. I read somewhere once that the best mindset with your spouse is not keeping score, but always thinking of the other. What can I do to serve the other. I like that. Now, if I can just keep that in sight..... :)Laurelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12752544536247854441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-87986924321287839112015-02-22T13:40:44.971-08:002015-02-22T13:40:44.971-08:00Glad I'm not alone! I like how you divvy thing...Glad I'm not alone! I like how you divvy things up, sounds like a good system. We tend to have some default chores, though not everything (or even the majority is clearly assigned). I like the idea of being more intentional about playing to our strengths and weaknesses! Thanks for sharing and the advice!Tomatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14874825476590035544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-58469230331357561432015-02-20T10:08:42.092-08:002015-02-20T10:08:42.092-08:00Girl, I've totally done this before too! Tried...Girl, I've totally done this before too! Tried to be all "selfless" and do nice things for husband only for him to not realize I was going out of my way and then blowing up on him for not noticing. Eeeek! No bueno. We try to divvy up the chores now by strengths and weaknesses, likes and dislikes. I'm really good at making grocery lists and don't mind shopping, so I do most of the meal prep and such. I reeeeeally don't like taking out the trash or cleaning the bathrooms, and he doesn't mind it, so that falls to him. It may not be equal (50/50), but it's fair in that we're both (mostly :P) happy with the chores we've been assigned. And I completely agree... communication is the key to all of this! Stephanie @ Blessed to Behttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15432625948200484509noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-11599299648666173222015-02-19T10:00:42.019-08:002015-02-19T10:00:42.019-08:00Thank you for stopping by and for sharing that! A ...Thank you for stopping by and for sharing that! A beautiful insight!Tomatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14874825476590035544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-51479808258703964622015-02-19T10:00:21.123-08:002015-02-19T10:00:21.123-08:00Totally there with you on that. I have a feeling I...Totally there with you on that. I have a feeling I'll be working on it for a loooong time, haha. Thank you for hosting and for stopping by!Tomatohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14874825476590035544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-83725634897994220112015-02-18T05:40:23.250-08:002015-02-18T05:40:23.250-08:00'A happy marriage is the union of two good for...'A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers' ;*Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9133558552627369533.post-84366721863556919402015-02-18T03:40:17.505-08:002015-02-18T03:40:17.505-08:00Such great insight! I'm guilty of the trying ...Such great insight! I'm guilty of the trying to make things "even" as well. But the truth is, it'll never be even and I'll go crazy (and resentful) trying to make it so. It's so hard to just give without expecting anything in return! Ah, still so much I need to learn and work on.. Thank you so much for linking up!Mary @ Better Than Edenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05409924891343767874noreply@blogger.com